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Heartwings Love Notes 299 - My Always Valentine

Heartwings says, " When you are truly in love every day is Valentines Day."

Stephen and I have been together for more than thirty years. In that time my dear companion and I have had our share of disagreements. Even the best relationship has its occasional dust-ups and difficulties. However most of the time rather than argue, we bicker. What I call creative bickering is one of the secrets of the good health of our partnership.

Nevertheless, whether we bicker or downright disagree, we do our very best not speak to each other in hurtful ways. As best friends we make every attempt to treat one another with courtesy and kindness. In addition, from the beginning of our relationship we have had a strong commitment to honesty, especially concerning feelings. Because of past experiences, from the start I insisted we air any grievances as soon as possible rather than harbor them.

As we are both essentially peace loving, it is not always easy to come out with statements that could be potentially hurtful. Yet we both know that we must if our relationship is to be healthy. Unstated grievances can over time accumulate to a bursting point; then it becomes difficult to control what happens next. What we do is try to say what we need to say in a way that is neither accusatory nor critical of the other.

We enjoy one another's company, a good thing because we are and have always been together most of each day. We began as friends as well romantic partners and we still are. More than anything else it is this friendship that guides our responses and repartee. After all, why would anyone want to say anything hurtful to a dear friend? On Valentines' Day and always I give thanks for my always Valentine, my beloved partner and my dearest friend.

May your Valentines Day be filled with joy and love.

Blessings and Best Regards,
Tasha Halpert
 

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